Invest in Yourself

Body Talk - Look Within to gain the advantage

2010-07-31T21:27:00.002+01:00

Looking Within is Key to Gaining the Advantage

While you're watching other's body language, it wouldn't hurt to monitor your own. Are you sending signals in meetings and interviews that agree with and even underscore your thinking? Are your gestures offering clues about your thinking that you'd just as soon keep to yourself?

Awareness of your body behaviour may work to your advantage. For instance, if you mirror another's posture, gestures and even voice tone, speed and volume it furthers feelings of being in tune with each other.

It's a way of building rapport, and when that happens, you're building trust, which is the key to business and any good relationship.

If you are looking to progress within your career, or building you business then get in touch and I can show you how you can gain the advantage.

In particular if you are unemployed then knowing how to gain the advantage at interviews will help secure the job of your dreams.

Phone me on 010242 681285 or email carole@thestyledirectors.co.uk

Body Talk - Don't Jump to Conclusions

2010-07-28T09:00:00.000+01:00

We hate to admit it but we all judge people on First Impressions; and we know just how wrong we can be!

To determine the true meaning of non verbal communications all signs need to be read in clusters. Crossed arms alone are not enough to know the person is upset. There should be other signs such as their posture and facial expressions that can be read to ensure their true mood.

Why Learn to Read Body Language?

To be able to 'read' other people's moods and intentions will help you gain an advantage and understand more about how we are coming across to others.

Key Elements

Eyes - Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of dealing with others, especially those we have just met.

Posture - Get your posture right and you'll automatically start feeling confident.

Head Position - When you want to feel confident and self assured keep your head level both horizontally and vertically.

Arms - Arms give away clues as to how open and receptive you are, so keep your arms to the side of your body or behind your back.

Legs - Legs are the furthest point away from the brain, consequently they're the hardest parts of our bodies to consciously control.

Orientation - The angle of a body in relation to others gives an indication of the person's attitude and feelings.

Hand gestures- Palms slightly up and outward is seen as open and friendly.

Body Talk - How to use your Ears and Mouth

2010-07-26T12:00:00.000+01:00

Just How do you use your Ears and Mouth

You've got two ears and only one mouth so try to use them in that order. If you listen twice as much as you talk you come across as a good communicator who knows how to strike up a balanced a conversation without being me, me, me or the wallflower.

We purse our lips and sometimes twist them to the side when we're thinking. Another occasion we might use this movement is to hold back an angry comment we don't wish to reveal. Nevertheless, it will probably be spotted by other people and although they may not know the comment, they will get a feeling you were not to pleased. there are also different types of smiles and each gives off a corresponding feeling to its recipient.

The closed smile is given when a smile is expected but not heart felt. A genuine smile involves the whole face including the eyes and originates in the heart.

Body Talk - What is the appropraite distance from each other?

2010-07-23T10:00:00.001+01:00

What distance is the right distance?

This is crucial if you want to give off the right signals. Stand tor sit oo close and you'll be marked as "Pushy" or "In your face". Stand or sit too far away and you'll be "Keeping your distance" or "Stand offish". Neither is good, so observe if in a group situation how close are all the other people to each other.

Also notice if you move closer to someone and they back away, you're probably just a tiny bit too much in their personal space, their comfort zone.

If you've overstepped the mark you should pull back a little.

Body Talk - Non Verbal Messages

2010-07-20T20:16:00.001+01:00

Sounds, Colour, Clothes, Music and Handshakes

Body Language combined with colour, clothes, tone of voice and music are together considered non-verbal communications.

In total 93% of the impression we make on others is through non verbal means. Body language consists of our communication through the use of facial expressions, eye behaviour, gestures, postures, positioning, orientation, touch and the use of space. There are times we choose to express our emotions, feelings, and attitudes through our body language and at other times our true feelings leak out accidentally, even sometimes contradicting the words we have spoken.

Body Talk - Women's Intuition

2010-07-15T11:00:00.000+01:00

Did you know that women are better at reading body language than men?

This talent gave birth to the term 'women's intuition'. In fact, in a University study it was shown that women were able to correctly read and interpret the body language of others 87% of the time while men were correct only 42%.

It's worth also noting that it is easier to read the body language of children than of the elderly. This is because the younger you are the more muscle tone you have in your face making it more expressive. The older you get the less toned the face is and the more difficult it is to see fine muscle movements.

Body language is a product of both genetic and environmental influences. Blind children will smile and laugh even though they have never seen a smile. Basic elements of body language are universal across cultures. More refined gestures, which vary between cultures (for example the gestures to indicate "yes" and "no"), are learned or modified through unconscious observation of the environment.

Why your Size 10 dress may actually be a Size 12

2010-07-12T09:00:00.001+01:00

I read a fascinating article written by Fay Schlesinger from the Daily Mail all about what size is a true size when shopping for our clothes.

For anyone who has been pleasantly surprised to find they can squeeze into a Size 12, it may come as something of a disappointment. A study has revealed that shoppers are being deceived by a poly called 'vanity sizing', in which stores flatter their customers by making clothes bigger so they think they are buying a smaller size.

Several major high street shops - including Marks & Spencer and Gap - appear to have made their measurements larger despite size labels remaining the same. I can confirm that in both those shops I buy a size smaller!

The Rise of Vanity Sizing:

A M&S size 16 has risen from 38in at the bust, 31.5 at the waist and 41in at the hips in 2003 to 39.5-33-43 today.

An M&S size ten has increased from 33.5-27-36.5 to 34-27-37

A John Lewis size 12 was 35.5-28-38 in 2008 but is now 36-39-38.5

A pair of French Connection men's slim-fit jeans were found to be six inches bigger than the advertised 30in

The waist of a size 12 skirt can vary from 28in at Next to 29in at Topshop, while a size 8 bust is 31.5 at John Lewis but 38in in Gap.

Ladies, you know what I think, the size of the label is irrelevant - the most important thing is whether or not your clothes fit and compliment your body shape.

Bermudas in the Office?

2010-07-09T09:00:00.013+01:00

Every summer we ladies are faced with the dilemma of what to wear to the office. We are fed up with dresses, suits and trousers that are hanging around from the winter and look for clever alternatives. Is it the Bermuda? Did you know Bermuda shorts originated with the British Army for wear in tropical and desert climates, and they are still worn by the Royal Navy?

The runways were full of Bermuda shorts teamed with jackets and chiffon blouses; designers try every season to get us to wear them. They disguise the Bermuda short with names such as "boy shorts", or "city shorts" to convince us that they are the latest trend. In all the offices where I work I have never seen a lady carry this look of properly. Do you wear heels or flats and have you noticed the wiggle when they stand up to get the seam line out of the derriere?

When you are desperately seeking a garment that is smart, well ventilated and not trousers - I have a radical suggestion the SKIRT.

I am a strong believer in the Skirt. It has been a long time since skirts were last the focus of the fashion's exacting gaze. They have been kicked into the long grass by trousers. I'm not saying there aren't any skirts in the shops there are; however they are almost all belt sized and can only be trusted to just cover your underwear!

I am pleased to say that at a fashion preview event for Autumn/Winter 2010 the skirt resumes it's rightful place and there will be plenty of length options.

Be patient ladies, let's not be driven into buying clothes that don't suit us just because that's all there is.

Cleansers & Toners

2010-07-06T09:00:00.001+01:00

Another winning pick to guarantee a fresh, super-clean complexion

TOP TIP: When removing eye make-up, never rub your eye as it could cause irritation. Simply wipe in a downwards motion and your make-up will slide off.

Skin Care - Exfoliation

2010-07-03T09:00:00.000+01:00

This fabulous tip came from Laura who has just had a beautiful baby girl. Laura said it was quite be accident that discovered another use for muslin cloths......

TOP TIP: Removing cleanser with a muslin cloth doubles up as a gentle exfoliation since it helps to lift off dead skin cells.

Thanks Laura, that's a fabulous tip.

Look within

2010-07-01T09:00:00.000+01:00

Following on from the previous blog I want you to Look Within so you can achieve your business advantage.

While you're watching others' body language, it wouldn't hurt to monitor your own. Are you sending signals in meetings and interviews that agree with and even underscore your thinking? Are your gestures offering clues about your thinking that you'd just as soon keep to yourself? Awareness of your Body Talk may work to your advantage.

For instance, if you mirror another's posture, gestures and even voice tone, speed and volume, which furthers feelings of being in tune with each other.

It's a way of building rapport, and when that happens, you're building trust, which is the key to business and any good relationship.

Want to know more? Would you like to gain the advantage in your business or personal life? If so, then contact Amaranti 01242 681285 or email: carole@amaranti.co.uk

Body Talk

2010-06-28T09:00:00.001+01:00

Actions often do speak louder than words

People might not say boo in meetings, interviews or interactions with customers, but their body language speaks volumes about what they're thinking.

Watching what people's eyes, faces, hands, torsos and legs are expressing can improve our understanding of what they are - or are not - communicating, experts say. In the business world, understanding body language may offer an inexpensive and often overlooked, competitive advantage for many small companies.

You will have heard the phrase 'actions speak louder than words'; indeed when what people say conflicts with what their bodies are expressing, we tend to give more credence to their "body talk". Body language is much more powerful than most people acknowledge. Researchers show that what people say is often less impactful than how they move their body and how they say it.

The whole subject of Body Language is a big one and cannot be covered within a blog - for more information on how to use your BODY TALK to your advantage - give me a ring 01242 681285

Invest in Yourself: Do high heels demean women as sex objects?

2010-06-26T20:48:00.000+01:00

Invest in Yourself: Do high heels demean women as sex objects?

Do high heels demean women as sex objects?

2010-06-24T19:49:00.002+01:00

Is wearing high heels really the best way for women to 'embrace their feminity'?

Well, yes, according to consultants at a one of my London top law firm clients. They advised scores of female lawyers that teaming a pair of stilettos with a skirt was the best way to look feminine and professional.

What do you think?

My experience is that the majority of women I work with say high heels EMPOWER them.

For me, early on in my life I realised that heels were transformative - they not only gave me extra inches, but they raised the bar in so many ways for my attitude, posture, confidence and femininity.

Life in heels is simply different to that in flats. If you wear the right pair they shouldn't be less comfortable. "The key to remember when choosing shoes is the slide of your toe forward should be balanced by the pitch of the heel at the back, which in turn is balanced by the width of that heel." quote from Manolo Blahnik with his PhD-level knowledge of the ergonomics of the foot and shoe! One day I will own a pair of Manolo Blahnik shoes.

Shoes with an indented waist to the heel tend to flatter a woman in a dress: straighter, chunkier lines work for trousers, straight shifts and tunics.

A pair of beautiful heels draw all eyes to them (you will be amazed by how much time people spend looking at your feet).

Why should Olive Oil be used in Your Beauty Routine?

2010-06-20T19:33:00.002+01:00

We all know that olive oil is wonderful and healthy for us to cook with, but what about it's other uses? Truthfully, olive oil is another main ingredient in several beauty products you can buy on the shelf. See for yourself how you can make your own skin cocktails and save a little money at the same time.

1. a mixture of 1/2 cup olive oil, 1/4 cup vinegar, & 1/4 cup water used as a night cream will make your skin glow. The olive oil softens and moisturises and the vinegar lightens discolourations, kills bacteria and loosens dead skin cells. Splash water on your face before applying.

2. Olive oil can be used as a cleansing cream if your skin is dry.

3. For a facial, wet face thoroughly, and then massage olive oil into your skin. Use about a half teaspoon of sugar and scrub your face with that, then wipe off gently with a warm, wet cloth until the sugar is all gone.

4. Use olive oil on your feet with clean white cotton socks. Helps to soften up your feet and it absorbs better than baby oil.

5. It seems when you pour olive oil out there is always a drip, so wipe it up with your hand and rub it into your elbows. Wonderful softening properties.

6. Use olive oil as a bath oil. Two to three tablespoons will do the trick.

7. Use olive oil for your hair. Not only does it condition, but it also gets rid of the frizz. Put a small drop into your palm & then rub both hands together and apply it to dry hair.

I can guarantee that they all work - I found that Filippo Berio Extra Virgin Olive Oil worked fantastically well.

Summer is here, time to scrub your body

2010-06-20T19:16:00.002+01:00

What fabulous weather we have - I so love the sun.

Having had my body covered throughout the winter it's time to take a closer look at its condition! Nothing is worse than tough, rough skin being on show.

I wanted to share this beauty secret with you and what follows is my favourite body scrub:

Sea Salt Body Scrub

1 cup of fine sea salt

1/2 cup grape-seed, hazelnut, or almond oil

10 drops of grapefruit essential oil (Neals Yard)

10 drops of juniper essential oil (Neals Yard)

1. Combine all the ingredients in a small bowl and stir thoroughly.

2. Spread the mixture onto damp skin and massage in. Concentrate on the tough, rough, thickened areas of the body, such as the feet, elbows and sometimes your knees.

You can also use this scrub to alleviate a dry, flaky, scalp and dull hair that are often the result of long-term use of permanents and colourings. Gently massage 1-2 tablespoons of the scrub onto the entire scalp for 5 minutes, then shampoo and condition as usual. As this scrub can be harsh on the skin only use 1-2 times per month.

Getting Married?

2010-06-15T12:37:00.002+01:00

Any bridegroom could tell you of the months of preparation that his wife to be takes in order to get ready for their big day.

Getting married isn't just the bride's chance to look her best.

Give yourself enough time to get organised for your wedding. I recommend that you start looking after yourself about six weeks before the big day. Too many men try to get an appointment on the day of the wedding for a shave and a haircut. Remember men, that your hand (the one with the ring on) will never have been looked at so much, so make sure that your nails look good; book yourself a manicure and WOW your bride and your guests.

And remember as your birde slips that ring on your finger she will want your hands to look their best.

Guys if you are going on honeymoon and it's somewhere abroad you will want to look your best on the beach, remember the pedicure.

Beauty Masks

2010-06-14T09:04:00.001+01:00

Have you ever wondered why your beauty therapist uses certain natural ingredients such as vegetables and fruit in your beauty mask?

The reasons make perfect sense to me; they are rich in vitamins and minerals. Below is a short list of Natural Mask ingredients and their effect:-

Cucumber

Effect: soothing and cooling with astringent properties

Skin Type: normal, combination and oily can also be used as cooling eye pads

Kiwi Fruit

Effect: stimulating

Skin Type: combination to oily skin

Strawberry

Effect: astringent

Skin Type: combination to oily skin

Banana

Effect: softening and desensitising

Skin Type: dry skin and sensitive skin

Avocado

Effect: nourishing and stabilises Ph balance of the skin

Skin Type: dry skin and mature skin

Lemon Juice

Effect: astringent and stimulating

Skin Type: combination to oily skin has bleaching effects

Honey

Effect: toning, tightening, antiseptic and nourishing

Skin Types: dry skin and mature skin

The "man" in manicure

2010-06-12T12:30:00.001+01:00

Is it manly for a man to have a manicure?

The simple answer is most definitely yes.

Men should take care of their hands and feet. There are many different types of manicure that a man can have; a Maintenance Manicure, Ultimate Pedicures and Sole Therapy. The last is a fabulous treatment consisting of a massage and a peel to take away hard skin on the heels and soles. The invigorating calf and foot massage uses cream with extract of cucumber, which leaves feet feeling soft, fresh and flip-flop-ready.

Fake Bake for Men

2010-06-10T12:21:00.001+01:00

More and more men are turning to fake tan to give them that healthy glow and there is nothing wrong with that. So, how do you avoid the 'David Dickenson's' orange look?

TOP TIP: Easy does it, is the key. Don't go too dark too quickly, start with a tinted moisturiser for that 'just been away for the weekend' look.

Have a grooming MOT

2010-06-08T12:25:00.001+01:00

To facial or not to facial - that is the question?

Whether you are a man or a woman becoming more knowledgeable about your skin is important.

Book in with a therapist and discuss the efficacy of products and facials.

One of the most popular facials is microdermabasion. This delivers immediate results, which men like, they do not have the patience to wait for three months to see a difference in their skin!.

Grooming for Gentlemen

2010-06-06T12:14:00.001+01:00

More and more men are wanting a healthy glow from the sun.

TOP TIP: Remember that freshly shaved skin is particularly delicate and must be protected from the sun, always use a high protective sun screen on your face otherwise it will burn and shaving the next day will be agony.

Hands, Feet & Nails

2010-06-06T10:46:00.001+01:00

Best foot file

The Tough Buffer, £39 from Diamancel at Bliss (0808 100 4152)

This is a great foot file because you can use it dry - hardskin will just melt away.

QUICK NOTE: The Body Shop have a dry foot file and it only costs £4.95

Want Sexy, Wavy Hair?

2010-06-02T09:00:00.001+01:00

TOP TIP: For sexy waves, wrap hair around your curling tong and keep it steady; if you twist the tong, you'll end up with goldilocks curls.

Hairstyling

2010-05-30T12:00:00.002+01:00

Why do some hairsprays leave your hair feeling sticky?

You know, I really dont know why, but what I do know is I hate it when that happens! If you have this problem I can recommend the best hairspray to use would be Elnett Satin from L'Oreal Paris, it retails at around £2.25 for a huge tin and lasts for ages.

This is the most versatile and flexible hairspray out there, if you want to change a look, you can just brush it out; it wont leave any flakes or sticky residue.

TOP TIP: Elnett Satin also comes in a mini can - perfect to keep in your handbag for last-minute fixes.

Hairstyling

2010-05-19T11:57:00.000+01:00

TOP TIP: Tame those flyaaways

"Apply shine spray to a blusher brush before using on your hair - this helps to stroke away flyaways and prevents product overload".

Hands, Feet & Nails

2010-05-17T10:40:00.001+01:00

Do you use a Handcream?

There is an enormous range of handcreams on the market and with prices that vary enormously. I am an avid user of handcream and feel completely undressed without it. The best inexpensive handcream I have found is Norwegian Formula Hand Cream £3.69 from Neutrogena. It's a real beauty bargain - this cream has a thick creamy consistency and a non-greasy finish.

Hands, Feet & Face

2010-05-15T13:00:00.000+01:00

TOP TIP: The best cuticle oil has to be Solar Oil, £11.95 from Creative Nail Design (0845 210 6060); this oil soaks in really fast and doesn't stain your clothes.

Hands, Feet & Nails

2010-05-12T11:40:00.002+01:00

Trouble with weak and peeling nails?

I can absolutely recommend Nailtiques, they have a fabulous product called No2 which is the best product I have ever used. My nails always used to flake and peel and absolutely refused to grow. No2 applied every day for one week saw my nails grow and the peeling reduced. By the end of the second week, all my nails had improved and I was able to shape them without causing them to break. I've now switched to Nailtiques No1 applied every other day and my nails are looking good.

TOP TIP: Do not allow your nails to become too waterlogged as this causes them to soften. Always wear gloves when washing up and even when wiping down the surfaces in your kitchen or cleaning your bathroom.

Hands, Feets & Nails

2010-05-10T11:37:00.001+01:00

TOP TIP: Even without nail varnish, always wear a base coat to prevent your nails absorbing water and peeling.

Hideous skirts from Japan

2010-05-08T09:00:00.001+01:00

What you see above are not see-thru skirts. They are actually prints on the skirts to make it look as if the panties are visible

And these are the current rage in Japan.

They are hideous!!!!

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Military is the new Nautical

2010-05-04T09:00:00.001+01:00

You would be forgiven for thinking that khaki is the new navy, the military shade is swamping the high street. This onslaught is so powerful that it looks set to overwhelm the traditional nautical theme that usually signals the arrival of summer fashion.

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Debenhams Celebrates Sex in the City

2010-05-01T09:00:00.001+01:00

The British high street chain, Debenhams, has announced an official retail partnership with "Sex and The City 2".

This is going to be another fabulous movie and is due for general release in the UK on Friday 28th May.

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Quick Tip : Streaky Self-Tanning

2010-04-26T09:00:00.000+01:00

This tips comes from Janet who, even though she followed the instructions very carefully, had a streaky self-tan which she did not want as she was going to a wedding.

Janet said to soften too much colour on one part of her leg, she stroked the area with a lemon wedge (citric acid is a natural exfoliant). To fill in light streaks, she evened out the colour by applying tinted self-tanner with the edge of a makeup wedge shaped sponge.

Thanks for this tip Janet. If you have a Quick Tip you would like to pass onto other blog readers please let me know carole@amaranti-image.co.uk

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Quick Tip : Perfume Overdose

2010-04-23T09:00:00.002+01:00

Isn't it terrible when a woman in your company has overdone the perfume? It's not too bad if you like the smell but if you don't it can make you feel sick and give you a banging headache.

So, what if you do it? To remove a fragrance's concentrated oil base, rub skin with an unscented baby wipe or cotton ball soaked in rubbing alchohol (available from Neils Yard).

To vaporise a scent that you've oversprayed on clothing, blast the fabric with a hair dryer for 30 seconds.

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Quick Tip : Clumpy Mascara

2010-04-22T09:00:00.002+01:00

This always happens when your in a rush. This quick tip needs to be acted upon immediately since mascara is formulated to dry in seconds. Wipe all the formula off your mascara brush with a piece of kitchen roll (don't use tissue as this may shed fibres) and wiggle the wand gently from side to side, from the roots to the tips of lashes.

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Quick Tip : Styling Serum Overload?

2010-04-21T09:00:00.001+01:00

I met a lady today for a personal shopping trip who had overloaded her hair with smoothing serum. The result was her hair looked as though she hadn't washed it for days. A quick trip into Boots and a purchase of talcum powder soon improved her look. I dusted my hands with the baby powder, rubbed them together well, and scrunched the greasy section. In a flash her hair looked great and she was filled with confidence for her shopping experience.

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Quick Tip : Eyebrow Gap

2010-04-19T09:00:00.000+01:00

Have you every over plucked your eye brows - I certainly have! This tip will quickly repair the damage. To fill your undesired void, brush brow hairs in the opposite direction of growth so the bare area becomes more visible, then use an ultrafine brow pencil to cover it with a feathered effect of light, hair-length strokes. Finally, brush the brow back into place. You can also use an eye shadow close to the colour of your natural eye brow hair.

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Quick Tip : Too much Blush

2010-04-17T14:54:00.001+01:00

Applied too much Blush?

Sprinkle translucent powder on a makeup sponge and blend over the too-bright colour. The trick is to blend the colour in toward the apple of the cheeks instead of out towards your ears. If cheeks still look too intense, go over them again with two drops of foundation on a makeup wedge.

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How to : Pick a Makeup Brush

2010-04-15T09:00:00.001+01:00

Powder - Large with soft, natural bristles. Dip into loose or pressed powder, shake of excess, and dust over skin to set foundantion.

Foundation - Use a flat, firm brush and I recommend synthetic bristles to apply foundation, using short downward strokes from forehead to chin.

Concealer - It is very important to be precise when applying concealer, apply with a small flat, blunt-edge brush and only put it where you actually need it.

Eye Shadow - Sweep shadow on lids and highlight on brow bones with the brush's flat sides, use the tip to define creases.

Highlighter - The fine, feather-light design of a fan brush works to dust subtle glittery highlights on cheekbones for evenings out.

Blush - Look for a brush that is the same size as the apple of your cheek. The round shape and fluffy bristles allow for easy blending.

Wherever possible choose a brush that has a retractable cover - this means you can take it out in your bag without the residue spilling everywhere.

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How to : Create Perfect Lips

2010-04-09T09:00:00.002+01:00

Firstly LINE - Choose a liner that's close to your own lip colour, not the shade of your lipstick. Outline edges while holding pencil at an angle. Using soft featherlike strokes fill entire lip, finally dap with a sponge before applying lipstick.

Secondly FILL - Dark and matte colours should be precisely applied. Start at the centre and blend outward with a lip brush. Blot lips with a tissue, dust with translucent powder, then apply a second coat.

Lastly FINISH - Paint around the edges of your lip line with a bit of concealer to prevent colour from bleeding.

If you are still finding it difficult phone me 01242 681285 and we can create the perfect lips for you.

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How to : Choose Matt or Sheer Lipstick?

2010-04-07T12:50:00.002+01:00

Generally speaking the wetter the texture, the less long-lasting. Remember the formula you choose matters too - gloss, stain, sheer or matte. We all know now easy it is to spread on some gloss and just go out the door, and we also know how quickly it disappears from our lips. A drier stain grips and holds, so you have to be precise about applying it within the lip lines. I recommend something in the middle is best for the day: As sheer lipstick is more permenant than gloss but easier to apply than a matte or stain. Heavy gloss and shimmery formulas, although gorgeous, are best kept for night.

If you are still finding it difficult phone me 01242 681285 and we can decide together what the ideal lipstick is for you.

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How to : Find an ideal lipstick

2010-04-05T09:00:00.008+01:00

Did you know?

The average woman consumes 6lbs of lipstick in a lifetime!

I'm often asked how to choose an ideal lipstick and like clothing, the new hues have become seasonless; matching your own colouring is the goal now. Roughly, cooler tones (those on the bluer end of the spectrum) work better for fairer skin, and warmer tones (those closer to red and orange) work best for darker skin.

As an example, if you are looking for a shade of pink, remember a warm pink is peachy; a cool pink is more mauve. Maybe try a shade that professionals say looks beautiful on nearly everyone; a sheer berry, a subtle pink, or a light brown or nude spiked with gold, bronze or red.

If you are still finding it difficult phone me 01242 681285 and we can decide together what the ideal lipstick is for you.

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Quick Tip : Get Smooth and Shiny Hair

2010-04-03T09:00:00.008+01:00

For deep hydration, look for a conditioner with a high level of acetyl alcohol - an ultrarich fatty acid that helps retain moisture. For a salon-worthy treatment at home, comb moisturiser through damp hair, blast section of your hair with a hair dryer for several seconds, and rinse. To tame flyaways and frizz; spray the palms of your hands with hairspray, then run them over your hair.

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How to : Walk in High Heels

2010-04-01T09:00:00.006+01:00

Walk Tall and with Confidence

PUT HEAD UP, SHOULDERS BACK - Heels tend to pitch your weight forward, so straighten up - and tightening your core - will offset some of the pressure on your feet.

TAKE BABY STEPS - Striding in your normal heel-to-toe motion can snap a stiletto. When you're elevated take short steps, going down evenly on the ball of the foot and heel.

SPREAD 'EM - As your weight shifts fully onto a foot, splay your toes in the shoes slightly; this will help to distribute the weight onto the ball of the foot.

GET HIPPY - When you're feeling off-balance you tend to stiffen up. For an easier momentum swing your hips in small, sideways, figure-eight motions.

SHOP SMARTER - When looking for your next set of heels, know that the farther forward the arch, the less you will totter about.

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Quick Tip : Keep Wrinkes at Bay

2010-03-30T13:22:00.001+01:00

To get more for your money and more out of your products, look for antiaging products in serum form. These lightweight liquids tend to have more potent levels of antioxidants, firming agents and skin brighteners than rich lotions do. They are also more easily absorbed, which increases their effectiveness.

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SS10 Black & White

2010-03-10T09:00:00.001Z

SS10 Black and White - The freshest way to wear black and white is to pair a solid black top with a white bottom (skirts, shorts or jeans). Of course it will depend on your body shape whether you put the black on the bottom and the white on the top!

If you are top heavy then black on the top is best as the black de-emphasises your top. Tie the whole look together with understated accessories - strappy black sandals, a satin flower belt - for a feminine look that doesn't detract from the graphic appeal.

Be careful, solid black and white can look a little bland, so spice up your look with plenty of texture. The texture can come from finishes (like patent leather), fabric treatments (like pleats, ruching or ruffles) or from embellishment (like tonal beading or embroidery). Go wild with your texture and mix up two totally different textures for maximum effect.

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SS10 Animal Prints

2010-03-09T09:00:00.001Z

Go Wild with leopard and zebra stripes!!

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SS10 Neon Fashion

2010-03-08T09:00:00.001Z

Neon Fashion in Lime Green, Fuchsia Pink, Tangerine Orange

If you are a little uneasy as to how to work these bright colours into your wardrobe, why not start off small? Work with a bright pink neon handbag with your every day clothes to brighten up your wardrobe, or wear neon coloured jewellery with your black attire. Wearing that little black dress tonight? Skip the black pumps and work in the neon blue stillettos. Wearing neon coloured accessories will add just a hint of colour to an outfit. For an even smaller start, paint some summer colour on your nails instead of the normal pales and pastels.

If you are brave and bold the orange zip up coat is fabulous! (all available from LK Bennett)

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SS10 New Neutrals

2010-03-07T09:00:00.000Z

SS10 Neutrals are full of neutral shades and sun faded prints.

Give your wardrobe a refreshing new look with neutral shades and sun faded prints. Beige isn't looking so dull anymore! Get the natural know-how with a leather jacket or go for an oat-hued suede mesh sandal. For fashion points wear the same tone top-to-toe and make it your second skin.

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SS10 Denim in Distress

2010-03-06T09:00:00.000Z

Denim in Distress - Get the ultimate casual look with cropped jackets and oversized shirts. Don't forget your jeggins, a perfect mix of denim and leggins, then give it the edge with a studded leather bag.

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SS10 Nautical

2010-03-05T09:00:00.001Z

Hello Sailor!

The nautical look is one trend that never seems to go away and this spring it's going to return to prominence once again. Traditionally this combination is made up of navy, white and red.

The real question is how do you make it look fresh? The trick to that is in the detailing and this spring nautical themes are complete with fabulous sequins and lavish detailing. Pair with a simple blazer, skinny jeans and an oversized tote and you're in business.

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SS10 Inky Blues & Purple

2010-03-04T09:00:00.001Z

Blue is the new black or so they said at The Elle Fashion Show in London last weekend. Purple still reigns supreme.

This season midnight tones and purple hues are warming up our neutrals. Get ready to introduce some colour back into your wardrobe.

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Spring/Summer 2010 Colour Trends

2010-03-03T09:00:00.001Z

Spring/Summer 2010 Colour Trends straight from

TheElle Fashion Show at London Fashion week

2010 Will be an exciting year for fashion; experts predict that we'll emerge from the global financial crisis and, as a result, we can expect to see a new standard of fashion rise up.

Introducing the 2010 fashion trends:

Wide ranging agreement at London Fashion Week agreed that the market demands colour!!

The top colours being:

1. Violet 2. Aurora 3. Turquoise 4. Fusion Coral 5. Tomato Puree

6. Tuscanny 7. Amparo Blue 8. Pink champagne 9. Dried Herb 10. Eucalyptus

The stars of the season are the greens, with nuances of red and soft and refined pinks, mauves and neutrals. The essential are the brights - almost neon (see later blogs for more information).

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London Fashion Week

2010-02-23T09:00:00.017Z

London Fashion Week

Thursday 25th - Sunday 28th February at Somerset House, London

With less than a week to go, it’s all go at Fashion Weekend HQ! Tickets are selling out fast so book yours today to guarantee your place at London’s most anticipated designer shopping and fashion event…

Shop from over 100 designers selling their collections at up to 75% off RRP: See by Chloe, DKNY Jeans, Ghost, Mawi, Juicy Couture, Luella, Sass and Bide, Kors by Michael Kors, Alex Monroe, Melissa Odabash, Pauric Sweeney and many more...

Have a sneak preview of the exclusive designer discounts on offer from our designers at Fashion Weekend this season.

Take a seat within the catwalk as we round up the key looks for Spring Summer 2010 with help from a selection of British and International trend leading designers including Betty Jackson, Herve Leger, Jasper Conran, Alice by Temperley, Ashley Isham, Twenty8Twelve and Jaeger - it's your only chance to visit the official British Fashion Council show tent.

Plus...

* This season's IT bag: Fashion Weekend Limited Edition Show Bags. Reserve yours now!

* New-season makeovers and beauty advice from Elizabeth Arden

* Hair styling, consultations and advice from top stylists at Toni&Guy

* Manicures with the latest Spring/Summer shades at the Superdrug and Bourjois nail bar

* Eyelash extensions and brow shaping at the Glow Beauty Bar

* Free Personal Styling courtesy of Westfield London

* And when it’s time to take a break from all that shopping and pampering head to one of our 3 bars and relax with a well deserved glass of champers!

Fashion Weekend will for the first time be using the Embankment Galleries within Somerset House which recently housed the SHOWstudio Fashion Revolution exhibition. The space is a great contrast to the neo-classical rooms within the rest of Somerset House and is the perfect backdrop for contemporary designers.

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How to Hide Your Midlife Tummy Part 5

2010-02-14T09:00:00.001Z

Patterns and lower body detail keep the eye moving away from the tummy

Another option is a colourful pattern. There's lots to look at, meaning the eye moves around a pattern instead of focusing on your tummy, so don't be afraid to try one. If you are going to wear a print try adding some chunky jewellery.

The grey patterned wrap dress is a must for any lady with a tummy bulge, the eye is moving around so much it doesn't linger in any one place long enough to notice the tummy bulge. The print blouse is another ideal top but be careful that the length of the top is long enough to go over the lowest point of your bulge. The black wrap dress draws the eye to the beautiful detail on the leg area, the buckle also helps to turn the eye away from the centre bulge making the eye move up and down from the buckle to the hem all over the ruffles on the front of this dress.

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How to Hide Your Midlife Tummy Part 4

2010-02-12T09:00:00.000Z

Wrap it Up!

Wrap blouses and dresses are always a great way to hide the tummy.

The top on the left stops at the waist, so if you have a tummy this will NOT work!

Instead try something like the wrap top on the right. this beautiful deep V neck puts the emphasis up top by the face, while the shirt is nice and long to cover the tummy. As for the bow play with it, if your tummy bulge is quite prominent then you may want to tie this top at the back. The added details of the lace trim keep the eye away from the middle section of your tummy.

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How to Hide Your Midlife Tummy Part 3

2010-02-10T09:00:00.001Z

When you have a wobbly tummy we tend to hide it under big boxy tops, but that is only going to make you look bigger overall. What you really need to do is to buy a top that nips in at the waist. Your waist probably looks good, it's the front that is the problem. Lace tops are popular for this Spring but the one on the right is straight up and down and has no shape. It adds bulk especially if you do it up. The one on the left will make you look 10lbs lighter!

Tucking in is going to put emphasis on your tummy and make it look larger. Leaving out will help elongate your body and make you look thinner. Once again, make sure the top is not boxy, or you will not accomplish this goal! One great way to tuck out is to wear an empire top. I love this deep V top with the little buttons and details at the bust line, that helps draw attention up to your face and away from your tummy.

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How to Hide Your Midlife Tummy Part 2

2010-02-08T09:00:00.002Z

Well, have you got one? Most of us have it .. that muffin top! In case you dont have one yet, it will appear between your bust and your hips and it's hard to avoid after the age of 40 and a baby or two. How can you dress to hide that wobbly bit in the middle of your body?

Heres another of my top suggestions:

Shape Wear (you can read more about this in the January Newsletter).

This slip lets you TAKE INCHES off and wear your own bra! A Firm Control Slip gives a complete smoothing effect from bra line to mid thigh. Two-ply mid-section provides ultimate waist shaping, no elastic on leg openings for maximum comfort and freedom of movement. Sling design on neckline sits just below bra and helps support your boobs. It comes in body beige and black, costs £36 and in sizes S M L XL XXL

The Everyday Slimming Weightless Power Briefs are an everyday control Hi-cut brief featuring an elastic free leg. This lightweight fabric disappears under clothes, provides smoothing and shaping without bulky materials and comes with a cotton lined gusset. It comes in body beige and black, costs £14.00 and in sizes S M L XL XXL.

Both the above are made by Flexees and you can buy them from Debenhams, House of Fraser and on line from Maidenform.

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Health and Exercise Question 5

2010-02-06T09:00:00.000Z

I've told you about the muscle ache in my calves but that was nothing to the pain in my stomach when exercising on an empty stomach!

Never, ever should you exercise on an empty stomach. I

f you exercise early in the morning, a banana and small glass of milk will give you energy. If you work out a bit later in the day, aim to have a snack 30 minutes before you exercise - NOT a full meal.

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Health and Exercise Question 4

2010-02-05T09:00:00.003Z

Q. Why do my muscles ache after exercise?

Thsi is a great question, muscle ache always gets me the day after exercise especially if I haven't stretched properly afterwards. My calf muscles are in knots when I get out of bed and I have to hobble until they loosen up!

A. Believe it or not aching muscles are relevant to everyone from the top athlete to the first-time exerciser. Simply, what happens is every time we exercise we put strain on our muscles, which causes tiny tears in the muslce structure. Don't worry though, our bodyies are amazing - the muscles repair the tears, becoming stronger in the process. Warming down and stretching after your workout helps the muscles to repair themselves, as well as flushing out toxins, which both reduce that next-day soreness.

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Health and Exercise Question 3

2010-02-03T09:00:00.002Z

The third most popular question asked was:

Q. How can I get myself motivated if I am having an off day?

A. For me, it has to be a musical film something like Dirty Dancing. If music is your thing then find an upbeat song that you like, play it loud and do just one of your exercises to some fast tracks. The great thing is that the minute you start exercising you instantly feel better. Exercise encourages your body to produce feel-good hormones. Pretty soon you'll want to complete your whole workout.

As they say 'Keep Dancing'.....

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Size matters in Portion control

2010-02-01T09:00:00.015Z

Size doesn't matter at all when it comes to body size but it does matter when it comes to portion control.

Have you noticed that portions in the UK are triple the size they used to be? The bigger the portion the quicker the weight gain. Clever marketing and confusing food packaging mean that it's easy to pile on the calories, even when you think you don't eat a lot. The morning coffee I used to have with the girls seemed pretty innocent until I learnt that a large latte can contain as much as 360 calories - nearly a fifth of my daily allowance.

Women are recommended to take in around 2,000 calories each day to maintain a steady weight. So if you are looking to shed a few poinds, then you'll have to eat fewer than 2,000 calories a day.

A simple way to get started is to swap your dinner plate for a side plate. As a general rule with cheese and dairy products have a portion that is no bigger than the size of a matchbox. With meat and fish your portion should be the size of a pack of playing cards. And carbohydrates such as brown rice, couscous, pasta, sweet potatoes, grains and pulses should be in portions the size of the playing cards and matchbox together. As for fruit and vegetables, this is one time you can supersize with impunity. To help you out, I've found a portion control plate, for about £20, the one in the image is on ebay tap here

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Health and Exercise Question 2

2010-01-31T09:00:00.006Z

This was the second most frequently asked question:

Q. Every time in the past when I have tried to lose weight I ended up putting more on, so what's the point?

A. The chances are that your previous attempts at weight loss put an unreasonable strain on your lifestyle, so you didn't keep it up and quickly regained any weight you'd lost. There are loads of diet plans out there that you could follow, but the regular advice given by the experts is to choose a diet that is easy to follow, will fit in easily with your lifestyle and will ensure you lose body fat as opposed to muscle. Regular exercise will help you to tone muscles and increase the amount of calories you burn naturally on a daily basis.

Note: The key element for me was PORTION CONTROL - more on this next time.

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Health and Exercise Question 1

2010-01-30T11:55:00.003Z

Thanks to everyone who has emailed me with support for my diet. I'm pleased to say that during January I lost a total of 6lbs.

Many of you spoke about the struggles you have during your diets, so this week I am going to share a few of my secrets and answer some of the questions that you have emailed to me.

Q. I always have an energy crash around 4pm. I have a nap but then feel tired for the rest of the day. How can I feel better?

A. The best and only way for you to restore your energy is with excercise. It takes just a little motivtion to get going, but once you're a couple of minutes into it you will fee wide awake. As you get fitter, your energy levels will stay higher throughout the day.

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The Average UK Woman and What She Spends to Look Good

2010-01-26T16:22:00.005Z

According to some recent research published in The Daily Mail (UK), David Thomas combed through a mountain of government statistics, academic research, media surveys and pollsters' reports to uncover the truth about the way UK women are ... here is an extract:

Mrs Average naturally wants to look her best :-

She buys 34 items of clothing every year, spending around £3,000 on her purchases. Would you believe of those 34 items she only wears 27 of them! Leaving 7 items unworn and probably still with their tags on.
She believes that the sexiest item in her wardrobe is her favourite little black dress, followed by her killer heels and her snug-fitting jeans.
She staggers around the shops carrying a handbag that weighs 5lb (2.5 kg), a weight that has gone up by 38 per cent in the past 5 years, thanks to the trend for oversized bags.
Her biggest weakness is shoes. An amazing 86 per cent of women claim to buy at least one pair of shoes a month. Based on that statistic Mrs Average spends £31,000 during the course of her lifetime - more than two years' worth of her average post-tax income - on shoes, belts and accessories.
Lingerie is a growing obsession with Mrs Average, who will spend £2,700 in her life on bras alone. She has 16 bras in her undies drawer, half of them white, and at least 13 of them chosen purely for their looks rather than comfort or support.
She buys another four bras every year, and wears a typical bra around 7 times in a 8-week period before getting round to washing it.
If ten Mrs Average females go out on the town, 4 of them will wear a push-up bra and another four will have magic slimming pants. They may, of course, be the same four girls!
With the clothes comes her beauty routine. During the course of her life, Mrs Average spends two whole years just looking in the mirror.
She will spend 603 days applying make-up and 170 days taking it off.
Her biggest expense of all is her hair, on which she spends a mind-blowing £36,903.75.

Okay ladies do you think that these statistics reflect you at all?

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How to Hide Your Midlife Tummy (1)

2010-01-24T16:40:00.044Z

If you are anything like me you will have a midlife tummy. One of my biggest struggles is to disguise my tummy without drawing attention to the fact that 's what I 'm doing! Here's some of the things I have learned and some tips for you.

The tummy bow adds bulk which you do not need. Don't wear trousers or skirts with belt loops, pockets, bows, buttons, buckles or pleats at the waist. They all add bulk and put the spotlight on your tummy (whether you tuck in or tuck out!) These casual linen trousers might look cute in the catalogue, or on a model, but the reality is that you will have to tuck in your top and your stomach will really be on show.The only trousers or skirts you should buy are flat fronted ones with very little detail or no detail!! Sounds boring, but it doesn't need to be.

Why? ... because there are all sorts of gorgeous long tops in style at the moment that you can wear over the top. (Thank goodness tucking out is currently in fashion). Look at this top on the right, with the pretty details at the neckline and hem they draw attention away from your tummy. Also, the necklace is a great way to add a hero to this outfit.

For more on heros/heroines and villans see blog 22 January 2010.

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Heroes and Supporting Acts

2010-01-22T15:36:00.028Z

Have you forgotten your Heroes?

So many clients who come to me do so because they feel that they're stuck in a rut, are looking boring, old fashioned and sometimes have lost their style. When we start to talk about the clothes they wear we discover that they're only wearing supporting acts and villians. They've forgotten about their hero jewellery, and haven't bought anything other than a very pair of practical shoes for a long time or have been buying bargains from the clothing department of the food supermarket.

When we bring the hero back into their wardrobe, they can see the value in taking the 30 seconds or so in the morning to choose some jewellery or a coloured top to make their outfit 'pop'.

Tops and Bottoms by Carole Stacey featuring Citizens of Humanity jeans

Outfit One: The leather jacket with pleats and studs, and curved front hem is the Hero or Heroine the supporting acts are the flat pumps and straight black jeans.
Outfit Two: The simple supporting act top compliments the Heroine black skirt with large ruffle.
Outfit Three: The chiffon tie front blouse with ruffles on the sleeves has a great supporting act; elegant black trousers and black patent court shoes.
The Accessories are all Heros or Heroines.

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Heros, Heroines and Villians

2010-01-20T15:32:00.001Z

The Golden Globe awards were held last night and almost without fail all the nominations had a Hero (or Heroine) and a Villian and to make the story cohesive and understandable, some Supporting Acts. The science-fiction blockbuster 'Avatar' won best drama at the Golden Globes and picked up the directing honour for James Cameron. So, what has this got to do with Wardrobe Secrets and your wardrobe? Well, Avatar had a Hero; Jake Scully (played by Sam Worthington); a Villian Colonel Quaritch (Stephen Lang) and Supporting Actors Dr Grace Augustine (Sigourney Weaver) and Neytiri (Zoe Saldana); and like you and your wardrobe Jake Scully ends up on a journey of discovery unlike anything he could ever have imagined.

Heroes (or Heroines) - these are garments or accessories that have enough interest or detail to draw attention to it and make the whole outfit look more exciting. It might be an unusually constructed skirt or jacket, it could be a white shirt that has a frill down the front, it might even be a gorgeous pair of strappy sandals, or a big statement necklace.

It make the outfit less 'plain and boring' and creates a focal point for us to look at. It might also be a talking point, or become a signature of your appearance or personality. For me my Heroes are either shoes or handbags or one of my very best colours worn in a cardigan or a piece of jewellery.

Villians - these are those pieces in your wardrobe (and mine) that don't fit, don't flatter, or are just plain worn out, stretched, baggy or pilled. The villians are dragging our overall appearance down. They're not flattering and they won't give you confidence or boost your self-esteem. Nobody wants real villians living in their wardrobe, let alone following them around all day, so remove them from your life and wardrobe so there is no temptation to wear them.

Yesterday, my lovely client thought she had a villian in her wardrobe, but on closer inspection it turned out to be a Heroine! All that was needed was a replacement zip.

Supporting Acts - Just like in a film there are actors that make the film possible. In your wardrobe they are the clothes that hold an outfit together. Your heroine won't shine if everything you wear is a heroine - too many heroines spoil the plot.

Keep your heros (heroines) to 1 per outfit (or 2 if 1 is an accessory), otherwise we won't know where to look, and you will probably appear too busy, with too much going on. They are the pieces like the little camisoles that stop that wrap dress or top revealing too much; the bootcut jeans in a dark denim that works with so a many tops, and the plain V neck T-shirt that sets off your patterned skirt. These items make your wardrobe work - without them you would have difficulty getting dressed in the morning.

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Golden Globes - This is How to Look Great

2010-01-19T19:30:00.001Z

Source and Source

How does she do it?

Sophia Loren is fabulous. This 75 year old start looked beautiful at the 2010 Golden Globe awards. Whatever her wardrobe secret is, it works for her. Although I wasn't too keen on the rainbow effect glasses her overall appearance was stunning.

Over the last few years, I've noticed Sophia has a little trick of lightly covering her shoulders, arms and sometimes decolletage with sheer fabric.

This gives the illusion of bareness, which is very sexy, but in reality you are covered up and not exposing crepy skin or aging arms. Here's a tip for us girls.

Very nice indeed.

Did anyone else catch your attention in the best dressed category?

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Golden Globes - Who was the Worst Dressed?

2010-01-19T19:17:00.003Z

Source and Source

Who do you nominate for the Worst Dressed?

There were so many stunning gowns on the red carpet at the Golden Globes, but there are always a few ladies whose looks stand out for the wrong reasons. While it's a tight race to be the best dressed, tell me - who was the worse dressed at the Globes?

Left to right.

Blake - The beach hair, high slit and unflattering dress are an odd combination.
Marisa - Her pirate outfit is only suitable for a pirate movie.
Renee - What happened here? Her high-rise hair and sheer black cut out dress is a very scary sight. Maybe she had it on back to front?
Heidi - Flowers are great, but did she forget size and scale?
J Lo - Is her dressing to get attention getting desperate?

I look forward to hearing from you.

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Etiquette & Manners (5)

2010-01-18T09:00:00.002Z

Thank-You Notes:

If someone has shown you consideration and thoughtfulness, in the form of a gift or otherwise, it's polite to respond with a thank-you note. Thank-you notes can be brief, but they should always be personal, warm, and specific.

If you were given a gift, mention it specifically and say how you are using it.
If you received hospitality of some sort, express your gratitude and mention something about the experience.

When to Write a Thank-You Note

When you receive a gift.
When you've stayed overnight at someone's house.
When somehone has hosted an event in your honour.
When someone has interviewed you for a job.
When you've been someone's guest at a dinner party.

The next 5 part series starting with Gift Giving and Receiving will be with you shortly.

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Etiquette & Manners (4)

2010-01-16T09:00:00.002Z

Responding to Invitations: An invitation is a sign of respect: someone wants you to attend a special event. Show similar respect in responding:

RSVP promptly: Unless otherwise specified, respond via phone or email for a casual invitation or in writing for a more formal event. For a formal event, such as a wedding, respond in writing even if you have already told the host that you will come.
No uninvited guests: If your host wants you to bring someone, they will indicate that you may do so. Otherwise, come alone.
No elaborate excuses: "Thank you very much for the invitation, but because of a previous engagement, I won't be able to attend" is enough. Never lie.
Children: Bring children only if they've been specifically invited. If you can't find a sitter, stay home.

Come back for Thank-You Notes.

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Etiquette & Manners (3)

2010-01-14T09:00:00.001Z

Invitations to Formal Events should be sent through the traditional mail. Now that people regularly use email to converse, traditional mail actually confers additional formality or feeling to invitations or notes.

Invitations to formal events should be sent 3-4 weeks before most events, and six to eight weeks before weddings. Every formal invitation should include:

Name(s) of the host(s)
Invitation phrase
Type of Event
Reason for the event
Date and time
Location
RSVP instructions

When addressing envelopes for formal invitations, follow these rules:

Write out place names: Use "Street" rather than "St", (and so on) and write out full area names.
Include all invitees: Indicate exactly who is invited, if inviting children, include their names in the address.
Include all titles: If an invitee is a medical doctor, ambassador, or holds any title, include the title in the invitation. If not, use "Mr." or Mrs" or "Ms" or simply write out the invitee's full name.
Couples: The man's name is written first, followed by the woman's. Use the woman's maiden name if she uses it instead of her husband's name.

Come back for Responding to Invitations.

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Etiquette & Manners (2)

2010-01-12T09:00:00.002Z

Five Guidelines for Good Manner

Treat everyone with respect: Don't reserve good manners only for people you're trying to impress. Show good manners to anyone and everyone.
Mix honest with tact: Honesty is the best policy, but never use honesty as an excuse to be hurtful.
Show consideration: Make it a point to do the little things: say "please" and "thank you," respond promptly to invitations, and be on time. Use your words and actions to show people you value them.
Be flexible: Not everyone grew up with the same rituals, customs, and rules that you did. Be sensitive to local laws, and lapses, of etiquette.
Never humiliate: Never make anyone look bad in public. That includes mocking someone, commenting on someone's clothes or appearance, or publicly pointing out someone's bad behaviour or lack of etiquette.

These rules shouldn't restrain you entirely from alerting someone to an embarrassing gaffe or from correcting someone's bad behaviour. But offer this type of advice in private, where you won't cause embarrassment.

Come back for Invitations to Formal Events.

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Etiquette & Manners (1)

2010-01-10T09:00:00.005Z

Etiquette vs. Manners

Our family and friends had a number of discussions during the Christmas period on what good manners are - most of us had different opinions!

Though the terms etiquette and manners are related; they don't mean exactly the same thing.

Etiquette: A set of guidelines about how to behave in specific situations (which fork to use, whom to address first, and so on)

Manners: The general notion that one should always be respectful and considerate of others.

Manners and etiquette usually exist in perfect harmony. On occasion, though, people can be such sticklers for etiquette that the "rules" become more important than simply being considerate. This is a mistake.

Manners should always take precedence over etiquette: basic kindness and thoughtfulness come before nitpicky rules. When in doubt, show good manners and you'll always look your best.

Come back for Five Guidelines for Good Manners.

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Drop a dress size instantly!

2010-01-09T09:00:00.022Z

Look & Feel FANTASTIC

It's impossible to hide the confidence that a well fitting bra can give you. It can transform how you feel, your shape and how you feel about yourself.

Katie, 25, was a 38D and is now a 34G

Once fitted in the correct size Katie looks slimmer has her waist back and her boobs are up where they should be! She also dropped a dress size as her boobs were in the right place so she didn't need to buy a bigger size dress to accommodate her boobs.

Thanks to Bravissimo for the pictures of Katie. Sarah Tremellen set up Bravissimo in 1995 following her own frustrating experiences trying to find pretty bras that fit her. She now runs a successful company providing a wide choice of lingerie and swimwear in D-KK cup, as well as clothing designed especially for big boobed women so that they can celebrate their curves and feel good about themselves!

Tap here for more ideas on how to dress a 'curvy all over' body.

Don't be sheepish about your thoughts ...

2010-01-08T09:00:00.000Z

This little notebook has received loads of lovely comments at the office; so many that I thought I would share them with you.

I am into ethical products but not those that shout from the roof tops. These Herdy notebooks come with a hidden ethical message which doesn't scream its name, they're also a delightful way of contributing, unwittingly, to the sustainability of the Herdwick Sheep.

They make a lovely gift for men and women, combining understated style with great production and quality.

Famous for being Beatrix Potter's pet project, the Herdwick sheep are somewhat revered by The Herdy Company and they do all in their power to ensure that their products not only help to protect and save the breed but that they use local suppliers where possible and focus on recycling all packaging materials wherever possible.

Available in five colours, each of the Herdy notebooks contains plain paper and has a woven hard cover with a Herdy badge to the front cover, depicting that telling smile of old from one of our most lovable breeds.

For more info Herdy Notebooks

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Wardrobe Basics

2010-01-07T09:00:00.009Z

Wardrobe Basics by Carole Stacey featuring Tory Burch

We all need wardrobe basics but what are they? For me, a basic is something that you need to make your Heroes/Heroines work. Whenever I am sorting through a client's wardrobe I always make sure that they know the garments that form the backbone of their wardrobe.
My list of basics are:-

Trousers - a great fitting pair of trousers in a dark colour and modern style can be worn to work or to the supermarket or to dinner, all you need to do is to change the shoes and top and of course the accessories and you will be ready for all occasions.
Jacket - this needs to be one that can be dressed up or down. One of the most useful garments in your wardrobe wil be the jacket that you can wear with a pair of smart trousers and also to wear with jeans when not being too formal.
Waistcoat - I am so glad that these are back, they can be used to team with your jeans or to wear with a skirt, or trousers.
Jeans - a pair of dark denim jeans (without the distressed look) is great for your wardrobe - dress them up with sandals, high boots or dress them down with flip-flops. Remember the distressed look draws the eye to the lighter areas of the jeans and this area might not be your favourite part.
Camisoles - these are a must for your wardrobe, depending on your colouring you should have a black/brown and a white/off-white one. I recommend that you have a few on hand in different colours to add variety to your wardrobe.
Blouse or Jumper - you can wear these with gorgeous skirts or trousers and they work well under a jacket. Of course, dont forget they will also team with the waistcoat.
Cardigan - in a dark neutral colour is so useful, very often people don't have the layers they require to keep warm, a well fitting and fine knit cardigan is easier to dress up and dress down - ladies no granny knits here.
Skirt - a flattering skirt at the best length for you should be in a trans-seasonal fabric in a neutral tone. Wear it with knee high boots, ballet pumps, sandals or high heels for a different look.
Handbag - a great handbag, good quality, good condition that isn't too formal or too casual is an essential item. A great bag can really finish off an outfit.
Shoes, Boots, Ballet Pumps, Sandals - I would suggest a knee-high medium heel boot; ballet pumps (or some other low vamp shoe) but pretty shoe to wear with skirts, dresses and trousers. Skin toned sandals with a heel of some sort to dress up our skirts and jeans will work with all your clothes. A high heel is a must to dress up trousers, skirts, dresses and jeans.

That's my list, I'd love to hear what your essential wardrobe basics are.

Bye for now

Does your wardrobe look like this?

2010-01-06T15:00:00.000Z

Just before Christmas I did a wardrobe audit for a lovely 55 year old client. She'd already thrown out loads of stuff, but we managed to get rid of another 5 black bin bags of clothes that no longer worked for her.

Like most in their 50's women, she didn't want to look middle-aged, nor (not surprisingly) mumsey, so as we went through her clothes it was easy for her to let go of everything that was dowdy, dated or disgusting.

By wearing ageing clothes, you are adding years to your perceived age (and approximate age is one of the first assumptions we decide upon when meeting someone). The details on clothing are important when deciding what is still working and what is not - look at the fabrics, old man-made fibres are very different from the current ones, especially if they were a 'fad' at the time you bought it. Button details - big gold buttons can often give away the age of a jacket or coat. What are the pockets like? Pockets go through the fashion cycle as do all sorts of other details such as collars and lapels.

In her wardrobe was a designer jacket she'd bought 6 years earlier, it was a bargain bought in a sale but she had never worn it. The jacket swamped her frame it had a dated pattern and style. Why keep something you've never worn for 6 years? Because she really wanted to wear it one day when she bought something to go with it, the jacket took centre stage in her wardrobe, it was the first things she saw! All this did was to reinforce that she hadn't made a very good buying decision all those years ago.

Once the sales have finished we are off to the shops with our carefully drawn up list of key items to fill the gaps in her wardrobe. Her excitement reminds me of just how much I love my job!

Do you have clothes in your wardrobe that have bobbled, shrunk whilst hanging on the hanger or simply don't work anymore? Not sure what you should keep or get rid of?

The first step I take when sorting through a wardrobe is to get rid of the villans. After that it's a matter of assessing each piece for its suitability. An objective pair of eyes can really help, either a friend with great style who completely understands you and what you want to achieve; or the professional help of an image consultant can get your wardrobe sorted out.

If you'd like some help give me a call 01242 681285 and I'd be happy to share some wardrobe secrets with you.

PS: More about Heroes, Heroins and Villans to come.

Bye for now.

New Year Resolutions

2010-01-04T17:00:00.000Z

If you are anything like me you will have overeaten over Christmas and I expect many of you will have made a New Year resolution to diet or get fit. How many of you made the same resolution last year? During the last 2 years I have put on 28lbs and when you are only 5 ft tall, that is a lot of weight. I used to joke about it and say that 'I wasn't tall enough for my weight' but that didn't stop me feeling bad about the weight gain. I know exactly why my weight has slowly piled on and that is simply because I have taken in too many calories and not work enough off!

So again this year, I have made the same resolution! I am determine to loose these extra pounds and to encourage me I am going to let you know how I get on. If you are planning to loose weight let me know and we can encourage each other.

There are numerous clubs to join:-

Weight Watchers have a new plan out with a fab new booklet called The Little Book of New Habits, see this at http://wwo.plan-net.de/uk/booklet I love the new characters, have you seen their advert?

Drop a stone in 8 weeks or your money back! That's the promise from Tesco and their online diet plan. This is what they are saying:- If you are looking to lose some weight or to improve your health in 2010 - then Tesco Diets has the diet plan for you! We take the hard work out of healthy eating by providing tailored diet plans, a personalised shopping list, as well support from registered nutritionists and access 24/7. You can also get your diet delivered to your door with our click to buy service and with our money back guarantee*, if you don't lose the pounds, you won't lose a penny.

The Slim Fast plan say:- It works quite simply. Every day you have two delicious Slim Fast meals instead of your normal meals, this could be breakfast and lunch, or breakfast and your evening meal. For your third meal you can enjoy a tasty, balanced recipe from the Slim Fast Plan. What's more you can have up to three snacks a day to help you keep cheerful between meals. Find out more at www.slimfast.co.uk

Whatever method you choose I wish to success and look forward to hearing your progress.

If you are looking to take up yoga there is a great new course starting on 18th January at Chapel Spa in Cheltenham. See you there? To book call 01242 518075.

Bye for Now

Happy New Year

2010-01-03T15:44:00.002Z

Your Wardrobe - How Good Could It Look?

Will you be approaching 2010 with a heart-sink 'more of the same ahead' feeling? Or are you fired up with excitement, ideas and intentions to develop and improve your wardrobe? The beginning of a New Year is an ideal time to reflect, consolidate and plan ahead to put those keys items in your wardrobe; take a fresh look inside those doors and you might discover that they are already there!

Out with the old, in with the new; a perfect opportunity to focus on your wardrobe vision so, get set to activate some positive changes.

Don't worry you don't have to do it alone; I will be giving you advice and tips through the blog and the Newsletter. If there is anything you specifically want help with respond to the blog or email me direct.

Things to come in 2010

FashionFeng Shui - I am really excited about this new programme and am looking forward to introducing you all to The Power of Dressing with Intention. The first programme is due to run in the Spring.

Evana Maggiore is dedicated to restoring serenity and sacredness to dressing and is the founder/President of Fashion Feng Shui International. For a sneak preview go to Evana's website at www.fashionfengshui.com

Bye for Now

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